When baby cuts her teeth, there is pain. There are tears. Growth is like that. It hurts a little.
It seems personal growth is a bit like cutting teeth. It hurts but it is not unbearable. And if we have a partner to hold us, to assure us that our discomfort is normal and necessary, we are at least armed with a bit more hope. The loneliness of our journey is somewhat dispelled. The pain is in the process of self-confrontation, in facing off with those tough problems that are generally tucked away safely in a blocked off corner of the brain. But it is this process of self-confrontation that leads to fuller self-awareness, an important first step in the process of change or development.
Pursuing greater self-awareness in the realm of sexuality can be particularly challenging. When it comes to attraction and desire, society has a lot to say about the “rightness” of our personal chemistry and feelings. Finding partners to hold us, to encourage us in our journey to sexual awareness is not always easy.
Art itself offers arms to hold us as we explore the realm of personal sexuality. For example, through paintings we can vicariously experience aspects of our own sensual calculus. The painting can stimulate some fantasy, taking us to a place we had not imagined, or dared to visit before. The painting is our silent partner, our trustworthy accomplice.
Notwithstanding our private process involving the visual image, we may be struggling to hang in there with a potentially awkward, even troubling bit of self-discovery. We might welcome even more encouragement to stick with this tough exercise. Music might lend a hand here. The music’s explicit expression of feelings evoked by the visual subject can be like having an empathetic friend participating with us in our experience of the work. This sense of a companion with us may strengthen us to hold with challenging feelings a little longer, and in so doing connect more deeply with art, artist and self.
The presentation at Audio Sparks for Art of Chris Mackie’s “Jim Morrison portrait“, along with a Doors tribute piece by composer/organist dazz123, may offer for some an opportunity for discovery in the secret world of personal sexuality.