Lolita was never much of a dog person as a little girl. First of all, her mom was the order and cleanliness type and had no connection with pets growing up in her staid German household. Dad followed mom, period. And of course, after the BITE, when Lolita was still only in puberty, having a dog around just represented another potential snack for her – to satisfy the undeniable craving, the blood thing.
Lolita recognized that she might not be inclined towards marriage, so on a day to day basis there was a certain loneliness, a certain emptiness in the house that needed to be addressed. On a theoretical level, at least, a dog seemed like an option. When Deuce was brought out to meet Lolita at the shelter, our Girl’s bonding with the Spaniel Muse was powerful and immediate.
Nevertheless, she had no practical experience of managing a dog. It seemed Deuce also had adjustments to make. For the first three days with Lolita, Deuce did not relieve his bowls. Lolita was at wits end. On the third day Lolita came home to discover Deuce’s cage a mess.
There was a brief moment when our Girl thought to take Spaniel Muse back to the shelter. But something kicked in. She had thought long and hard about the value of a companion in the house. She really liked this dog. Dam! She would clean the cage and get on with it.
Because of Lolita’s determination to make a good start with her new friend, she enrolled and completed with Deuce a first level dog training program at her local pet store – an activity well outside the comfort zone of our Vampiress. Lolita sucked up the embarrassment of displaying before others her awkwardness with self-assertive behavior for the sake of her commitment to making it with Deuce.
This happy ending with the beloved Spaniel Muse proved a somewhat pivotal experience for Lolita. She discovered a basic connection between commitment and success. Lolita focused less on the setbacks, the failures, and more on her basic decision to achieve a goal. This essential mental realignment on the goal, on the determination to get to the finish line in good style, has paid dividends for our Girl over and over.
Most recently, Lolita has been involved in a musical collaboration with a German composer – a young man of great talent. How much frustration she has endured in this relationship – his rejection of her proposals, his delays in response, the discovery of her own technical and conceptual shortcomings and the embarrassment of revealing this “dirty laundry” to someone else. But our Girl is enduring. She is hanging in there. She is committed to finishing work, to growth as a composer, and to the benefits of feedback and collaboration. This is primary and will drive her through the difficulties to a good finish. Happily, at last report, she is arriving with her new friend at a the final stages of what may prove to be an awesome little track.
She just thought you might take some heart from the sharing.