Blind Monk, as readers of old posts may recall, grew up in the alleys of Bangkok, Thailand. Of course he was not a monk then, just a poor, abandoned blind kid, pre-occupied with survival. He became a trusted figure on the street, and found income as a fence. Mostly he moved watches and jewelry.
The young man’s blindness and social condition precluded him from any sort of “normal” dating. He took his pleasure as he could, and mostly he paid for it. This solution became his habit. He became embroiled in a world of co-dependency. A confused mix of feelings – love, lust, obligation, resentment, disappointment, frustration, degradation – these characterized his intimate relationships.
Although the young man was rather stuck socially, other aspects of his life improved. He stopped sourcing his trade from the black market. He developed a love for writing and music. His verses even found some following in the coffee houses and bookstores where he would sometimes recite. His interest in the world of the spirit was deepening. He wanted to create light. He wanted to stay in the light.
It was clear to Blind Monk that his unfortunate habit of paying for companionship cast a shadow over the light he increasingly valued. It was equally clear to our poet that positive growth in other areas of his life suggested that he could break this habit.
The young man’s acknowledgment of a problem, and his belief that the problem could be solved, were the elements of readiness that made change possible. Armed with this condition of readiness, Blind Monk began modifying his behavior.
We won’t bore you with too many details about Blind Monk’s path to more satisfying social relationships. The point is that we can reach a condition of readiness for change by staying focused on aspects of our lives which are amenable to growth and development. We don’t become overwhelmed or debilitated by aspects of our lives which are not yet as susceptible to positive change. We acknowledge that these are aspects that need to be changed. Eventually, our success creates sufficient hope in the possibility for change that we are ready for action.